Evil One
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Agreed... there is no reason to sneak around.
Jim
Jim
Shooting with the ex
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It's hard to stay friends with someone like that, but unfortunately there's allot of them like that out there. Life is short don't stay a bachelor to long.
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Glad to see your taking this as well as you can.
This is a REAL sore subject with me.
My employer who is also a very close friend has been divorced now for almost a year. Same thing happened to him, but she didn't get pregnant.
I work with the poor guy everyday. I've seen and experienced his up's and down's. Nicest guy you ever met. He didn't deserve it. He gave her everything and did everything for her. And it still wasn't enough.
He found out that she was seeing his best friend for almost 2 years.
While they were married, they both owned and ran the small business where I work. She threw it all away and more. Of course she blamed him for everything.
We have a large group of friends. Seven or eight families in all. We get together for holidays, camping etc.... She threw all that away too. It was a major shock to us all.
The night he told me about it, it just snowed about a foot and more was coming. It was just after Christmas. We sat at the bar in Applebees. We cried and got drunk.
I will never forget that night nor will I ever forgive her. I haven't seen her since she left and I'm afraid of what I will say when I do see her.
Like I said before, your a better man than me.
Take care.
Just make sure you don't teach her to be better than you...................
She has decent aim. I'm just teaching her the basics and safety measures. How good she gets is up to her. I'm not giving her that much of my ammo.
It's hard to stay friends with someone like that, but unfortunately there's allot of them like that out there. Life is short don't stay a bachelor to long.
I've spent most of my life as a bachelor. That was the longest relationship I've been in. I'm not looking for another one but if it happens it happens.
I don't think it makes me any better of a man than anyone else. What happened, happened and I don't think it's worth being ugly about it when that can't change it anyways.
Good for you sir.
I'm not as good at turning the other cheek.
Good luck.
I'm not as good at turning the other cheek.
Good luck.
geronimo1969
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You got to remember the profession ur in too..LOL!!But I agree w/u..Seen my ex-sister inlaw pop a few at her husband..
You have to let it go. Resentment and anger are like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. It is just not worth it.
OLDFED
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Twenty years together and she never picked up a gun. We get divorced and she says she wants one of my revolvers, so she gets my Model 60 from 1969. Three years ago, she calls and says she wants a shotgun as a house gun, so I find her a 20 ga. pump. She takes a gun course and loves it. Now all her female "gang" go shooting. Maybe I had bad breath?
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You know why divorces cost so much? They're worth every penny!
feralmerril
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I say the goverment (divorice court system) itself, causes more murders, hate and violence, and disorder than if we didnt even have divorce and property settlement laws!
I also maintain that there would be far less divorces if the system didnt exist. Yes I know potential examples of unsupport and abuse will be stated. However I argue that if alamoney laws and such didnt exist, people would think twice before running off and haveing affairs!
For every couple (or person) that screws off, you cant count the number of other people it affects. Start with the kids that doesnt have a relationship with the dad that now doesnt get to see them as he now has to work in a prision of overtime. The grandparents that usualy are forever cut out. The other wronged partner of the triangle and their kids and grandparents too. It just doesnt stop! Many times dad can no way pay the amounts court dictated, throws up his hands and runs. Now welfare steps in and pays. (That means all working taxpayers). All, if not all, domestic murders are a result of adultry and or some guy haveing his life decided by and tore up by courts saddeling him with impossible payments and unrealistic visitation etc. Thats the real world!
While I never got to the murder part, I can document many times over what I just wrote! There but for the grace of God I was! Well, its all over now. But I worked in a prision of overtime for 15 years of about 70 hours a week to pay and survive after my ex also ran off with another married man who also ran off on his dieing wife!
The bad part of this crap is seeing our kids repeating our mistakes!
I also maintain that there would be far less divorces if the system didnt exist. Yes I know potential examples of unsupport and abuse will be stated. However I argue that if alamoney laws and such didnt exist, people would think twice before running off and haveing affairs!
For every couple (or person) that screws off, you cant count the number of other people it affects. Start with the kids that doesnt have a relationship with the dad that now doesnt get to see them as he now has to work in a prision of overtime. The grandparents that usualy are forever cut out. The other wronged partner of the triangle and their kids and grandparents too. It just doesnt stop! Many times dad can no way pay the amounts court dictated, throws up his hands and runs. Now welfare steps in and pays. (That means all working taxpayers). All, if not all, domestic murders are a result of adultry and or some guy haveing his life decided by and tore up by courts saddeling him with impossible payments and unrealistic visitation etc. Thats the real world!
While I never got to the murder part, I can document many times over what I just wrote! There but for the grace of God I was! Well, its all over now. But I worked in a prision of overtime for 15 years of about 70 hours a week to pay and survive after my ex also ran off with another married man who also ran off on his dieing wife!
The bad part of this crap is seeing our kids repeating our mistakes!
About the closest I ever came to fixing the X's car was the day the D was finalized and I went over to remove the plates from what was now Her car.
The plates/reg were in my name, she needed to get her own.
I took them off,,went into the house and signed the registration over to her.
She then wanted me to take her to DMV to get her own plates,,I said 'No',,and she then stabbed me in the face with the Craftsman screw driver.
Not real serious,,but almost into my left eye. Then she threw it and sunk that 10" screwdriver into the kitchen wall next to my head.
We don't speak.
The plates/reg were in my name, she needed to get her own.
I took them off,,went into the house and signed the registration over to her.
She then wanted me to take her to DMV to get her own plates,,I said 'No',,and she then stabbed me in the face with the Craftsman screw driver.
Not real serious,,but almost into my left eye. Then she threw it and sunk that 10" screwdriver into the kitchen wall next to my head.
We don't speak.
feralmerril
Absent Comrade
I had just bought a brand new 4wd 1985 ford ranger with all the options. I also had the top of the line shell and carpet kit put in. I made my 1st payment and the ex ran off with her new boy friend with it. He didnt own a running vehicle of course. Our daughter was 6 years old, and I didnt know where they were. This was about a week before christmass, tree was up etc. We/she were doing the gun show circut in california on weekends. She was very sharp, a looker and a draw at our tables. She also was a dozzen years younger than me. Depending on where or how close to home the show was she sometimes would go without me as I usualy could work OT on the weekends for time and a half, and double time. If some barganing needed done, she would call me at work. She also sold that black swatt/military wantabee holsters/belts/cases etc that you see at all gunshows. Probley in those days, she was one of the first to be pushing it. Anyway, she knew all the ropes and probley as sharp as most guys that deal in guns. I got married late in life and had already built up a gun collection that was good as most collections.
She ran off with a flunkey for a large promoter that all you older guys in the west that mess with gun shows in that era would have known. The guy would take a truckfull of tables to the shows, sell tickets and maybe put on a guard uniform etc. My plan was to buy a new house, sell a large part of my collection to finance it, and get civilised. At the time I was already 44 years old and had been single untill I was about 40 years old. The ex ran off with guns I would never had sold, for instance a colt new frontier that audie murphy had bought new, and many other old western guns I had accumilated years before we met. Colt saa, lighting, remington derringer, S&W 44 da, colts from the 1870s etc.
Anyway getting back to the subject of this thread, she took my truck. I was close to two months tracking her, my daughter and the truck down. Without makeing a book of it, I located her when she had to go to court for packing a gun concealed. I stold my truck back, (Its shell roof was crushed in as they had a lot of luggage on the roof that was too heavy), there was now about 9,000 miles on it in two months and it never had its first service! I didnt leave her flatfooted, but gave her a large ford station wagon. She got ahold of HER lawyer (whom I had to pay to break me by court order), I was taken to court for a special hearing to give her the car that I already had voulintarly gave her, PLUS ordered to pay for the insurance untill the divorace was finalised, - a good year later.
At one point I seen she was driveing a brand new ford pu 4wd full size. He nor her even had a job! They financed it by fraud useing my name and credit! I asked her if they had got rid of the wagon. She said no, so I kept up the insurance and found later they forged my name on the title and traded it in as down payment. I took what I had to my divorce lawyer and he shined me on, saying the judge would do nothing.
I paid insurance on that wagon that didnt exist for about 6 months! I aint so quick to damn some of these guys that you read about that go beserck in a divorice and go down shooting!
She ran off with a flunkey for a large promoter that all you older guys in the west that mess with gun shows in that era would have known. The guy would take a truckfull of tables to the shows, sell tickets and maybe put on a guard uniform etc. My plan was to buy a new house, sell a large part of my collection to finance it, and get civilised. At the time I was already 44 years old and had been single untill I was about 40 years old. The ex ran off with guns I would never had sold, for instance a colt new frontier that audie murphy had bought new, and many other old western guns I had accumilated years before we met. Colt saa, lighting, remington derringer, S&W 44 da, colts from the 1870s etc.
Anyway getting back to the subject of this thread, she took my truck. I was close to two months tracking her, my daughter and the truck down. Without makeing a book of it, I located her when she had to go to court for packing a gun concealed. I stold my truck back, (Its shell roof was crushed in as they had a lot of luggage on the roof that was too heavy), there was now about 9,000 miles on it in two months and it never had its first service! I didnt leave her flatfooted, but gave her a large ford station wagon. She got ahold of HER lawyer (whom I had to pay to break me by court order), I was taken to court for a special hearing to give her the car that I already had voulintarly gave her, PLUS ordered to pay for the insurance untill the divorace was finalised, - a good year later.
At one point I seen she was driveing a brand new ford pu 4wd full size. He nor her even had a job! They financed it by fraud useing my name and credit! I asked her if they had got rid of the wagon. She said no, so I kept up the insurance and found later they forged my name on the title and traded it in as down payment. I took what I had to my divorce lawyer and he shined me on, saying the judge would do nothing.
I paid insurance on that wagon that didnt exist for about 6 months! I aint so quick to damn some of these guys that you read about that go beserck in a divorice and go down shooting!
I agree and understand.
But like I said before, it's easier said than done.
Only time and patience will tell.
nogoodnamesleft
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That's awesome.
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7shooter
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My son and one of my brothers were better friends with their ex-wives than when they were married to them. They just couldn't stand living with them.
